It hasn’t been easy dealing with the women in my brother’s life. They have this way about them that I just can’t define in a few terms. The deceitfulness of insecure women and their inferiority complexes is so obvious when they are trying to be nice. They are so transparent, even without being vain. I just know they are up to something or want information when they pretend to be concerned. Sssspinning their little webs everywhere and leaving emotional traps for their entertainment or ego boosts.
What I hate the most is how they hold my brother ransom emotionally and he is so caught up in his desire to be accepted by these women, he is oblivious to their ambush techniques.
Either that or he just needs to man-up to these women and quit letting them control him.
Talking about controlling people. They think they are the puppet master and those strings aren't felt at all by their victims.
It’s funny how my husband reacts to these controlling women and how he tries to trigger up some reaction in me about the games they play. When the insults, the betrayal, the disrespect isn’t even directed at him. But yet he is another inferiority complex trying to get me to act a certain way. I know that that is his past talking and I don’t say anything cause I understand where it is coming from. Just because I choose not to do anything doesn't mean I'm not intelligent enough to know what is going on. I choose not to react because what is the point? It's a waste of my time and energy to tell these people who they are and if I did say something......why would I think so highly of my opinion to think it would revive them to change. For example, I hate when people complain about certain characteristics they have in themselves. So this time, it backfired and I showed my husband a reflection of himself. I am dealing with enough with my son. I don’t have the energy to deal with this drama. When will my husband ever accept that I am a Mother first? Before I am a wife or a woman. It is infused in me. Ever since my mid teens when I became an older sister to two small siblings. I can’t be the Mother I want to be, or have been; if I am busy stroking egos. My husband went off to contemplate this load of reality I threw on his lap cause I am tired of the games. Tell me how you feel without all the bullshit and I will respect you more for it. I will be more compassionate to your needs. I will acknowledge what you feel is important. Until then I will continue to see your attempt to express your needyness and keep my distance until you can properly communicate without inflicting pain. This can also be perceived as another controlling attempt. Pain is not enough when your disappointed in someone else's behavior. I know no matter what I do I am gonna make someone unhappy. In my heart and mind I believe I am doing what is right and I am where I am suppose to be. I will not be made to feel guilty for who I am or who I need to be for my kids. I am too old to not be taken seriously in my responsibilities. I would think that that deserves support and/or respect. If you can't respect me enough to think I need to be fooled into thinking what you want. The dynamics of what I see, how I act and what I don’t say for your sake is the deepest type of acceptance and love I could ever give and it's you that is MISSING OUT ON US!
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